Me vs. You We: Seven Strategies for keeping your communication Talk report
As Jodi said, the headphones cost a fortune, Mike was confused. The price was $ 350 – expensive, but a fortune? Jodi speaks in superlatives, and superlatives Mike brain literally does not compute.
Rory made two tangents before returning to its point of origin. As a systematic communicator, Carlos missed turn of the conversation and Rory was so lost he missed Rory point.
What’s up? What we see here is a failure of communication by the seemingly incompatible styles of communication.
research on communication style covers four different communication styles that are determined by two factors – pace and people-orientation. Visionaries “are fast, people-oriented communicators. “Successful” are fast task-oriented communicators. “Reflecting” is slower fast-paced, communicators specific tasks. “Nice” is fast slowly, people-oriented communicators. Each style has its own strengths and weaknesses. And like oil and vinegar, not perfect, but they complement each other.
Communication Skill Training is never without analyzing communication styles and learn to perform effectively communicating with the trends of the personality of others. Here are some Dos and Don’ts to help you bridge the gap in communication styles.
1, ask the question: what is my communication style? Releasing a simple communication test.
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: Everyone has the same style as you do, or is your style better than others.
Why not? What may seem normal, picky, illogical or incomprehensible to someone else.
Do: Know thyself you aware of own communication style, strengths, communication, weaknesses and communication.
understand why: the better you can understand how you communicate, the more chances you have to adapt to different forms of communication.
2 invites you to take the people most important in your life, the communication style quiz.
Once you understand your own style to win the interest of others.
Do not: that they must pass the test adjustments.
Why not? Any implication there is something wrong with their style of resistance is created.
do: let them know that you want to take the test, so you better understand how they communicate.
Why? It is an advantage for them is likely that interest them.
Power Phrase / What can I say: “I’m studying communication styles, I would like to improve my communication skills. Would you like a quiz quiz communication style to help me understand how you communicate? “
Poison Phrase / What not to say: – You must do this test.
3 Start a conversation conversations with people from other forms of communication.
Do not: continue a conversation that does not work if you have a conversation about how to communicate.
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Why not? If you speak different languages, are more eloquent or more will not help.
do: take a step back and consider how to overcome the barrier of communication.
Why? It’s like rebooting your computer. It gives you a fresh start.
Power Phrase / What can I say, “We seem to speak different languages. I would like to discuss our communication styles and find ways to adapt to each style of others.”
/ What not to say – you are not intelligent.
tips for communicating with each of the four different communication styles
4 If you talk to a “visionary”, it is fun.
Do not: overload Visionaries details and do not expect them to meet your standards for more details.
Why not? Their eyes glaze over the details, and you lose. You put yourself … … and doomed to failure if you expect to embrace a high degree of detail.
Do: details on the need to know, and let them know why they need to know.
Why? Since they do not like the details of an attention to detail, they must understand how the details of their place in the big picture, to tolerate. />
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< br /> 5 If you talk to an “Achiever”, make it quick.
Do not: share the information they need or not to initiate a personal conversation in a business conversation.
Why not? They have little patience for anything outside effect.
Do: Information on a need to know.
Why? That’s all they want to hear what they do.
Power Phrase / What can I say, “I must make two points, and I need three minutes of your time. … The number one “
Poison Phrase / What you say: – Hi! Let me tell you about my weekend!
sixth If you are a “reflection” to talk logically and correctly.
Do not: approximate or go on tangents.
Why not? In a world reflex, if not exactly, it is not true. Reflective conversations to expect A to B to C to D and are not good at following tangents.
Do: as a logical, systematic and detailed as possible. If you like, tell them that this is an estimate. Before going on a tangent, or theme, you warn listeners.
Why? If you let them know that you feel they will not take the accuracy. If they warn of a tangent, you know, for switching and are better able to follow your route.
Power Phrase / What can I say: “I think I’ll be there at 2:00. It could be fifteen minutes either side of 02.00 hours. “This is off topic …”
Poison Phrase / What you do not say – I’ll be there at 2:00. (If you really feel.)
7 If you do not talk to a “sympathetic” to give a personal dimension.
: relay facts.
Why not? friendly will think something is wrong.
do: add small-talk, even if only a few words.
Why inspire? Even a few personal words to motivate and friendly.
Power Phrase / What can I say, “I’ve missed at the meeting. Here’s what you need to know.”
; Poison Phrase / What not to say: – Here’s what you missed at the meeting.
The analysis of communication styles and learn how one is interacting with different communication styles is an important part of communication training. Follow the advice in this article and you will fill the gap of communication a snap.
Meryl Runion, CSP, Certified Speaking Professional and is the author of four books on communication, phrasing and management. His books have been sold over 250,000 copies worldwide. You can reach them at www. speakstrong. com or 719-684-2633.
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